This month’s synchrblog asks bloggers what they would write about if this was thier last blog.
It’s sort of like asking a person to think about what they would want their last words to be.
As I pondered this idea I knew that I would want my last words to be about love because imo love is the main thing, the biggie, the thing that trumps everything else. If someone was to try and remember something I once said I would like it very much if it was something about love.
So, here are some Last words about love …. from me.
Loving is risky and requires us to be vulnerable. That’s scary stuff but it is worth it.
People accept the love they think they deserve.
We can love others without loving ourselves but the love or lack of love we have for ourselves does impact the way we love others and the way we receive love from others.
If we hurt someone with our words or actions we shouldn’t demand that they love us well without taking time to regain their trust and demonstrating our love to them in better ways. Forgiveness, regaining trust and being vulnerable enough to love again after a relationship suffers a blow is a process. Love is patient.
The opposite of love isn’t always hate … sometimes it is indifference or silence or polite but meaningless interaction.
When it comes to faith the only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. (Galatians 5:6)
Loving requires us to be generous. Loving is more than a feeling. Love is an action we choose.
If we keep having to declare that our actions are loving we may not be loving well. If what we call love is consistently seen as unloving we have to examine what we are doing and why. We can always justify our actions and words by calling them “tough love” but most of the time if someone consistently feels unloved by us it is because we aren’t loving them well.
Real love is worked out in the details of life. Real love enters the world of another person and feels what it is like to be that person. Real love sees through the eyes of the other. If you want to grow in love focus on the details.
Say “I love you” to your friends and family. Of course our actions mean the most, but adding those three little words to loving actions is a priceless combination. Don’t miss out on the opportunity. And add a hug when you can! The human touch is very important when it comes to showing our love.
Love is powerful – but more than that – love is enough. It gives so many the courage to stand up against injustice and for the goodness and protection of others, it causes us to give generously of ourselves and our possessions, it helps people open themselves up to new understandings and perspectives, it motivates us to check on our neighbors, to give to the poor, to visit the sick, to take care of our children, to build a life with someone. Love changes those who love and those who are loved … and as a result it changes the world.
Spread your love everywhere you go! You won’t regret it. It is worth it. It is enough!
I hope you will check out the other synchroblog posts this month (I’ll add links as they become available).